The following is an excerpt from Prepper’s Home Defense by Jim Cobb. It comes from Chapter 13 – Children and Security.
For as long as there have been children, there have been bullies. I doubt there is anyone reading this who has never once been on the receiving end of bullying. An argument can be made that being bullied is a natural part of growing up. However, it seems as though bullying has changed quite a bit since I was a wee lad on the playground. Today, bullies are as apt to do serious, permanent physical damage as they are to taunt with colorful language.
Teaching your child how to successfully deflect or stop bullying will lead to an increase in self-esteem and self-confidence. Bullies tend to prey upon those who they feel are weaker than themselves, so the first line of defense, so to speak, is to put out an air of confidence. If a child causes the bully to believe their behavior will lead to injury or at least make them look bad in front of their peers, they’ll likely as not seek a different target.
It certainly isn’t politically correct to suggest this, but I’ve always believed the best solution to being bullied is to sock the bully in the nose. It is usually very unexpected and does the job quite well. When one of my sons was young, he was having trouble with a bully. He went through the official channels by reporting it to his teacher and other staff members but nothing changed. He was reluctant to respond physically as he was afraid he’d be the one who got in trouble, which of course is what the staff members told all students about fighting. I finally called a meeting with his teacher, the principal, the vice-principal, and the guidance counselor. As I recall, the conversation went something like this:
Principal: “Mr. Cobb, we understand your concerns. Do you have any suggestions as to how to deal with the situation?”
Me: “I’ve told my son that the very next time [bully’s name] touches him or even so much as looks at him cross-eyed, he is to punch him. If he gets up, he’s to punch him again. This will continue until he stays down. Maybe [bully’s name] will get it through his head then.”
Principal: “I don’t think we can condone that!”
Me: “You’re misunderstanding me. I’m not asking for your permission here. I’m just telling you ahead of time exactly what is going to happen. If you want a different course of events, then I’d suggest you step up your efforts to keep [bully’s name] away from my son and under control.”
Perhaps not too surprisingly, we didn’t have problems with the bully again.