Category Archives: Women’s Self Defense

Afraid To Go Outside Alone?

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To many people, venturing outside alone especially at night can instill a fear that can be hard to overcome. With all the news depicting the rising crime, it’s no wonder that feeling safe is something out of reach for a lot of citizens.

You hear about crime in the news just about on a daily basis, so your anxiety about going outside alone is well founded in reality. However, there are some steps you can take to help eliminate your fears. Possessing the mental freedom to walk around and conduct your business, i.e. shopping, walking, jogging, and just going from A to B should be something you can take for granted.

Man Peeking Behind TreeHowever, that’s not to say you should be naive either. You shouldn’t think “it” can never happen to you, but you also shouldn’t have to be concerned that “it” is about to happen to you either. A happy medium can be achieved by taking a few mental and physical steps to prepare yourself for whatever could happen.

Preparing to Leave the Home or Office

First off, you can realize that for the most part, the world is not filled with people out to get you. There are certainly bad people out there, but the majority of people you encounter are just like you. They’re trying to make a living, get the shopping done, visit friends or family, and get healthier by walking or running. They’re just as concerned for their well being as you or anyone else is.

Having to leave the safety of your home or workplace can cause consternation if you are not prepared to deal with the bad elements out there. In most cases, there is really no cause for concern. However, being able to deal with a threat will give you the confidence you need to go about your business. Having a safety product with you that will help you get out of a tough situation is your main line of self defense.

An Effective Form of Self Defense

One of the most effective forms of personal self defense is the pepper spray. Made of Oleo Resin Capsicum (OC), this protective spray has been a cornerstone of stopping an assailant for decades. While there are other forms of sprays such as tear gas, real OC spray has the immediate effect you’re looking for. That’s because it is an inflammatory agent and not just an irritant.

Don't be Afraid to Go OutsideWhat that means is that once the liquid gets into the eyes, nose, and throat of someone, the capillaries – which are the very tiny blood vessels in all of us – will swell up and cause involuntary reactions that a person cannot control. They will not be able to keep their eyes open and tears will flood their sockets. They will not be able to breathe very well and will start to cough and choke as their own body tries to fight off the chemical invasion. There will be an intense burning sensation all over their skin that really hurts.

As long as facial contact is made, you are sure to be able to get away as the affected person will have no other desire than to make the burning stop and get to a water source to flush their face and eyes with. Most sprays also have an infused dye that can be used to identify the attacker. Once you spray someone, get away as quickly as you can and call for help. The police will be able to ID who the person is by the dye all over their face.

You can obtain a self defense spray in many sizes from big to keychain sized small. Cost on these is minimal and can be found starting at under $10. If you have one of these on you when you go outside, you will have no reason to feel afraid. You will know that you’re able to fend off an attack easily and at a safe distance before they even get close enough to you.

Defensive sprays have these benefits:

  1. Extremely Effective
  2. Inexpensive
  3. Lightweight
  4. Used from a distance

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Stay Alert, Stay Alive

Learning to become vigilant and aware of your surroundings at all times goes a long way to providing a safety buffer. Walking tall and keeping your head up demonstrates confidence and gives you an aura of being someone not to mess with. Keeping aware of who’s around you also gives you a “head’s up” to see someone’s demeanor as they approach.

Criminals in prison have gone on record stating they are looking for someone who is not paying attention. Someone with their head down and just trudging along. Making eye contact with those you encounter shows you are paying attention and would be able to identify an attacker. This is exactly what they do not want.

Exuding the confidence that you can take care of yourself makes you a tougher target and one that most criminals would rather pass up. They do not want to deal with someone who’d give them trouble and would rather find a more docile, easier conquered person they can control.

With the protection of a pepper spray you can have that confidence because you know you have the ability to protect yourself. Not even those drunk or on drugs are able to defy basic human physiology. A blast of pepper spray to the face and anyone has to succumb to its effects.

Go Forth and Prosper

Armed with knowledge and a canister of pepper spray, you do not have to be afraid to go outside alone. If you’re a jogger, there are even cans made especially for running. Keep your head up, stay alert to your surroundings, and have the attitude that you are not a victim. Being confident makes you less of a target as the bad guys are looking for an easy score.

Keep your OC spray with you at all times and be prepared to use it if you need to. This means keeping it handy while you’re out. Hold it in your hand while walking to and from your vehicle or from place to place. It really is a show stopper and you can be sure that anyone who tries to stop you will find they’ve chosen the wrong person.

 

The Perfect Spring Break Gift – Date Rape Drug Detector

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If you have a daughter heading off on a Spring Break vacation, you are naturally going to feel a little nervous about it. Every year, there are stories about young women being assaulted, often through the use of a “date rape” drug such as GHB.

Do your daughter a favor and pick up a packet of Drink Guard cards. They come in a pack small enough to fit into the tiniest of purses. The test itself is as simple as can be. Just put a drop of your drink onto the card and if the card turns dark blue, don’t drink your drink!

Date Rape Drug Detector

It is frighteningly easy to introduce a drug into someone’s drink. Passing your had over the glass or cup as you pass by is all it takes. The drugs used today dissolve quickly and usually have little to no taste. Given how strong the mixed drinks can be at parties, the victim is none the wiser, until the drug begins to take effect.

Date Rape Drug Detector

There are a few simple rules that, if followed, will go a long way toward keeping you safe when alcohol is involved.

1) Never leave your drink unattended. If you do, assume it is tainted and get a new one, using a new cup or glass.

2) Never go to a party alone. Always have a friend with you and watch out for one another.

3) Having a few drinks is fine. Getting so drunk you can’t stand up on your own is not. The idea is to have fun, not end the night praying to the porcelain god. Keep in mind, many of the symptoms of date rape drug ingestion mirror or mimic the effects of being drunk – dizziness, nausea, drowsiness, and slurred speech. The more sober you are, the easier it will be to detect whether you may have been slipped a drug.

Praying to the Porcelain God

4) When in doubt, use date rape drug detector cards to test your drink. If you find your drink has been drugged, let your friends as well as the bartender and party hosts know immediately.

If you suspect you have been given a drug, let someone know immediately so they can keep an eye on you. Heading to the local emergency room wouldn’t be the worst idea, either, so they can monitor the situation and take action should it become necessary.

Safety Weapons for Females

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There are plenty of options available for women to keep themselves safe from harm. But first let’s discuss the most important ones. Your brain and your senses help keep you aware of your surroundings.

Your brain and your Sense and a weapon for you.Keeping constant vigil on what’s going on around you will keep you from being surprised by an attack. While females are targeted more often than men, a women’s intuition is generally stronger than a man’s and can give early warning of potential danger.

Not only is staying aware going to pre-warn you of any upcoming danger, criminals in prison interviews have admitted to avoiding confident looking and self aware women for fear of them fighting back.

Criminals want easy targets, someone they can overpower easily and without much fuss. Giving off an air of confidence reduces your chances of being chosen as a victim.

Safety Weapons for Females

Now lets talk about a specific safety weapon for females that you can easily carry and use to fight off a rapist or other type of attacker.

True Pepper SprayThe number one female safety weapon I always recommend is pepper spray. A self defense spray is lightweight, easy to use and is something that can be utilized very quickly should the need arise.

When you’re in an unsafe place or even at night in a generally safe area, pepper spray should be in your hand, on your side, clipped to your purse or other piece of clothing where it can be easily grabbed. If going to your car at night is a regular occurrence, then you should have your spray attached to your keys and have them out and ready while you’re walking.

You always want to be able to quickly use your spray in a moments notice. While walking and you get that tingly feeling that something is just not right, that’s your intuition kicking in shouting at you to be more aware!

True pepper spray, not cs or tear gas, is the most effective form of defensive spray. While other types do severely irritate the eyes, nose and throat, OC pepper spray is an inflammatory. It INFLAMES the capillaries which produces massive tears to spew from the eyes. The nose, throat and respiratory tract are inflamed as well and makes breathing extremely difficult to do.

When you spray someone with pepper spray, they will have a very hard time just trying to get oxygen into their lungs, all the while not being able to see very good. When they try to open their eyes, they will be unable to because of the human body’s natural instinct to shut them. The intense pain from the hot peppers forces a person to keep them closed as much as possible.

One of the best safety weapons for women is to carry a pepper spray with them wherever they go and to not be afraid to use it. Get in the practice of getting it ready while out and about. Get your muscles used the movements necessary for getting the spray in the action position ready to fire.

But most of all, stay alert to your surroundings. Hopefully you’ll never have to use your spray, but if you do, use it with confidence – spray them fully in the face to be sure to get it in their eyes and nose. Once you do that, you will have an opportunity to get out of there and seek help.

If this person was going to harm you, call the police and give them a good description. With the Wildfire brand spray as pictured above, the attacker will also have a vegetable dye on them making it easy to the police to confirm.

You can find a variety of pepper sprays, stun guns, and personal alarms at TBO-TECH Self Defense Products, www.tbotech.com.

 

Lil Guy Stun Gun Review

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The Li’L Guy stun gun is a small and compact, but powerful self defense tool you can be confident will help protect you should you be accosted.

It comes with a holster you can put it in and carry on your belt. This keeps your self defense weapon readily available so you can access it quickly when the need arises.

The Lil guy is a new generation of stun guns built with solid technology that allows it to deliver a superior stunning effect. You can literally hear the difference when comparing it to other, even much larger stun guns.

While smaller than any other stun device, the micro circuitry inside the unit delivers a stepped up output that clearly outmatches its bigger competitors. In fact, it has one of the strongest outputs of any stungun on the market.

Lil Guy Stun Gun by Stun Master

Although tiny and innocuous looking, its durable construction is evident as soon as it’s in your hand. There is a rubberized coating on it that makes it easy to grip and hold onto. Ergonomically correct, the controls are easily manipulated using only your thumb.

The on/off switch has three positions. From the bottom off position, you slide the selector switch up one time to use the very bright 120 lumen flashlight. The convenient LED light is useful when you need extra light at night opening a door, looking for something, or blinding an attacker by shining it in his eyes.

Sliding it up one more position engages the stun circuitry and a red light turns on indicating to you that the device is ready to give a serious shock. Once in the on/stun position, move your thumb to the discharge button and press it to deliver the shocking electrical effect.

The Stun Master Lil Guy stun gun is rechargeable and doesn’t need batteries. It has a retractable plug that extends out so you can plug it directly into a regular household outlet. There is a button on the bottom of the unit that you depress and then slide so that the plug prongs extend outward. This feature ensures you won’t accidentally extend the plug.

To retract after it is charged up, remove the unit from the wall outlet and then depress the plug button and slide it back inside. The plug remains hidden when not recharging.

Lil Guy Stun Gun - Pink, Purple, & Black

The size of this little stunner is only 3 3/4″ x 1 1/2″ x 3/4″. It can stay out of sight until you need to unleash its power.

Available in pink, purple, or black and can be purchased at www.tbotech.com

Personal Protection Devices for Women

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Deciding which item to carry for self defense can sometimes be quite confusing. With so many options to choose from, it can be hard to make a decision as to which one is best for you.

Self defense and personal protection devices for women can range from harmless all the way up to causing pain and even injury. While you may not be comfortable inflicting personal injury upon someone (even though that’s exactly what they intend to do to you), there are many options you can use to deter or ward off an imminent threat to your safety.

Types of Personal Protection Devices

Personal Alarm - Makes a Very Loud Sound!Personal Alarms – Emits a loud siren that gets attention. These are activated by pressing a button on the device. Once you’ve done so, the alarm will sound off making a lot of noise. The idea behind these rape or panic alarms is that the unwanted noise could make your attacker want to get out of there so he doesn’t get caught. Noise is the enemy of an assailant. A siren going off along with the sound of a woman screaming will bring someone to help.

Pepper Spray for a WomanPepper Spray – Dispenses a debilitating mixture of oleoresin capsaicin (oc) that causes severe pain in the eyes, nose and throat. This is one of the most common forms of protecting yourself. These can come in different forms: Stream, Fogger, Foam, Gel and can also be disguised as a writing pen or even a lipstick case.

Carrying a defensive spray on you at all times is one of the best and least expensive methods of protecting yourself. As long as you hit the person in the face with your spray, they will have no choice but to immediately stop what they are doing. The intense burning sensation and inability to breathe forces your attacker to give up the assault.

Stun guns – When contact is made, these stunning devices will cause severe muscle contractions and pain. The overwhelming shock and surprise of the electricity flowing through a body will certainly trip them up enough for you to make your get-away.

Stun guns are not like what you see on TV or in the movies. They do not knock a person out cold or make them drop like a sack of potatoes. They are designed to allow you to get the upper hand in a situation and then run away and get yourself to safety or to find help. The shock factor gives you that bit of time.

These also come in a variety of forms and can be large, small, high voltage, low voltage, and/or be disguised as a lipstick, perfume bottle…even a cell phone.

Telescopic Steel Batons – A tad on the heavier side, but an expandable baton can be extended in less than a second. With a full pound or more (depending on the length), when you swing this at an attacker and make contact, there will be no doubt in their mind that you are not someone to be trifled with. This weapon is larger, hard as steel, and can cause serious injury if need be.

These flick batons can be used to hit the knees, ankles, collar bones, or other bones and will cause severe pain with a solid hit. They can easily break bone which would certainly stop someone from continuing an attack.

Keychain Weapons – There are a couple of keychain weapons that are also beneficial for self defense.

Heart Attack Keychain KnifeThe Heart Attack is one of them. It’s really a keychain knife that can be used as a punch. Similar to holding keys in your hand like used to be taught many years ago, a punch with one of these hard plastic knives will cause lots of bleeding. It’s not time to get squeamish about protecting yourself – you do whatever it takes to stay alive.

Kubotans – This is a smaller and lighter piece of metal cylinder that can attach to your keyring. Although not as hefty as the telescopic baton, this defensive keychain weapon can be used to strike an opponent and cause pain.

By attaching your keys to it, you can hold your keys and swing this at your attacker. Hitting any bony surface will give the desired effect. Alternatively, you could hold the kubotan and swing your keys towards them aiming for the face to draw blood.

Also a called a yawara stick, it is also used by holding in a fist and jabbing and pressing the end of it on a pressure point. If you were grabbed, you would jab this on a pressure point, such as on top of the shoulder area. This would cause pain and hopefully for them to let go of you. You could continue to fight or choose to get away as quickly as possible.

These are just few of the personal protection devices for women that are available. You have to be comfortable having it with you or else you won’t carry it so be sure that 1) you aren’t scared of it, and 2) you are able to easily keep it with you at all times.

My number one recommendation to all women is to carry pepper spray. It is small enough to keep with you always. It’s not heavy at all, so it won’t weigh you down. But most of all, it is one of the most effective forms of protection there is. No matter how big the guy, a blast of OC spray in their face is going to stop them, period. When you can’t breathe and your face feels on fire, you have other things to worry about than anything else you were doing.

Pepper Spray for Women

Do yourself a favor and carry pepper spray. Hopefully, you will never have to use it. But if you do, you will have saved yourself from something potentially awful. With the cost of $10 or less, there is no reason for any woman not to have a personal protection device that can really save your life.

Staying Safe from Sexual Assault

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Considering the many safeguards we commonly put in place in our homes, such as locks, guns or even dogs, it is very shocking to consider the rape statistics in the U.S. The annual sexual assault statistics have reached almost 300,000, and even more rapes or assaults do not go reported to the police. It is also surprising to consider that most of the victims – about 80% are under the age of 30 and so the victims are typically able to fight back physically to some extent. Another sobering fact is that 6 out of the 10 assaults take place in the victim’s home.

Preventing Sexual Assault

Sadly, the most prevalent instances of this type of crime are focused on female undergraduates. An extremely large number of college women stated in a study that they had been the victim of a rape or attempted rape that took place during their time in college. Why this should be so is the focus of a large debate among rape advocacy groups and law enforcement, but the end result is the same – many young women will perhaps face sexual assault during college. This calls for a closer look at what women can do to protect themselves at home.

Safety Kit for the College WomanWhile many instances of sexual assault occur with a known acquaintance, most of the instances still happen at home. Theoretically, by keeping your home safer, you may be able to keep yourself safe as well. Some good safety products for the home include wireless alarms, which can alert you when someone is outside your house, a door brace, which make forcible entry more difficult or even pepper spray or a stun gun, which can help you repel an attacker if they should get inside the house. By securing the perimeter and interior of your house, you may be able to give yourself an extra advantage.

If you or your daughter is living the true college experience and is staying in a dorm room, the College Woman Safety Kit provides some tried and true safety devices. The kit includes the door brace, a personal alarm that will sound a very loud siren, a can of pepper spray, a stun gun and even a small personal safe. Even if you feel that you are not at risk, an ounce of prevention can go a long way towards repelling a sexual assault. Never overlook your chance to be proactive in your personal safety.

Personal Defense Keychain

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There are several items you can use for personal defense that you can carry on your keychain. The benefit of having your self defense device on your keychain is that it is normally always with you. You take your keys with you when driving or pretty much whenever you leave your house.

Having something you can use to protect yourself with at all times is the most important thing. It needs to be readily accessible and effective.

Top 5 Personal Defense Keychain Items

Keychain Pepper Spray for Personal DefenseThe most common and well known personal defense tool is Pepper Spray. This product is sprayed into the face of an attacker, mugger, or would-be rapist to force them to stop. It is very effective as long as you get them in the face where it can hit their eyes and nose.

Once the self defense spray is in their eyes, they have no choice but to close them and seek out a way to stop the burning. As they breathe in the mixture, their lungs will also have a hard time breathing because the capillaries get inflamed and stops all but life support breathing.

This is a good choice for most everyone because it is easy to use, inexpensive, and not obnoxious looking, but most importantly…it works!

Kubotan

Kubotan for Personal Defense - Fits on KeychainThe kubotan is a metal keychain weapon that can be used to inflict pain through pressure points, jabbing to the eyes, or swinging the blunt object at the person you are defending against. If you hold your keys, the kubotan will at the end of your reach and be the part that hits your assailant. You can target the head, knuckles, shins, or any bony part of the body and it will cause pain.

Keeping up a barrage of attacks may be all you need to make the person find an easier target. Most criminal that are interviewed while in prison have said they do not want the hassle or attention generated by a person who fights back. They’d rather you succumb or give in and if you put up a fight, they will probably get the heck out of there so they don’t get caught.

Mace Baton

The Mace baton is a variation of the regular kubotan with a twist. It contains a fair amount of pepper spray you can direct at your foe. The self defense spray inside is discharged by pressing the end of it while the end that you have pointed at your opponent will emit the debilitating spray.

If you run out of pepper spray without hitting your target, you can still use the mace baton as an effective weapon that you can hit with, target eyes, and inflict pain through pressure points and hitting bone.

Heart Attack

Keychain KnifeThis plastic keychain knife is designed to be held in your fist and used as a punch assist. Similar to holding your keys between your fingers and punching that way, this Heart Attack will deliver a powerful blow and cause substantial injury to someone that is attacking you. The person who gets injured the most first is usually the one who loses the fight. Once you have neutralized your attacker, you can get away and call for help.

Personal Alarm

Keychain Personal or Panic AlarmThese panic alarms are excellent attention getters. The loud sound emitted from these devices alerts everyone within hearing distance that you are in trouble and need help. As previously stated, an attack doesn’t want attention and when there is a loud noise around, they will want to get the heck out of dodge instead of sticking around waiting for the cavalry to come running.

Stun Gun

Lastly, stun guns are getting smaller and smaller every year yet remaining powerful weapons in defending against attack. The shock value of stunning someone is usually enough to make them want to back off and go elsewhere. Many people have had success by only discharging the stun device in the air creating the loud electrical discharging sound. Anyone seeing and hearing that instinctively doesn’t want to experience the full effect of the juice.

 

Personal Defense Keychain Stun Gun

You have to weigh the option of waiting until you can make contact with the person or giving a warning that you are armed with a stun gun. Either way, you will get a reaction and your intent is to get away from harm as quickly as possible. Anything you can do help you escape is the right thing to do.

Having a personal defense keychain item is smart and gives you a great advantage against a bad guy wanting to do you harm. Keeping it with you at all times is very important so you’ll actually have it when you need it. By attaching it to your keychain, you give yourself a very good chance you’ll have something to protect yourself with when the time comes.

Situational Awareness

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If I were asked to talk about one single thing that can dramatically increase one’s personal safety, whether at home or out and about, it would be situational awareness. Essentially, this refers to being aware of your surroundings.

Let’s face it, many people go about their day all but oblivious to the world around them. With their faces hidden behind cell phones and tablets, they have very little sense of what is happening even five feet in any direction from them. If they aren’t busy texting someone about tonight’s concert plans, they’re posting photos of their lunch to Facebook.

The sad truth is, these people are victims-in-waiting. Criminals look for these folks and prey upon them daily.

Put your damn phone away and pay attention to what goes on around you. Keep your head up and your eyes open. I’m not saying you need to walk around in some sort of DEFCON 1 mode. However, you should give off an air of confidence. You want the world to know you’re paying attention and ready to handle whatever comes your way.

Little known fact — just looking a potential attacker in the eye can be enough to dissuade them from bugging you. They don’t want to deal with someone who looks like they can take care of themselves.

As you walk down the street, watch for anyone who appears to be trying to get close to you. Look at their face and their hands. Something often overlooked is the fact that the hands do the dirty work in most cases. They aren’t going to grab your purse with their teeth, right?

A side benefit to increasing your awareness is you may just appreciate the world we live in a little more. You’ll actually see, maybe for the first time, the blooms on the trees in another month. You’ll hear kids playing in their yards. You’ll smell that fresh baked bread at the bakery.

Take off the blinders and see what you’ve been missing.

Pepper Spray For Women

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There are many pepper sprays for women in the marketplace today. Manufacturer’s have recently been catering to the ladies by coming out with lady-like colors such as pink. These color choices give more of a style and flair to a key ring or hanging off a purse and encourages more women to actually carry a pepper spray.

As a self defense company, we know that one of the most effective forms of protection is carrying pepper spray. It’s effect is immediate and stops an attacker from doing anything else but wishing they could stop the burning.

Pepper Spray for Women

Not only are pretty colors an option, but they also come in different disguised forms as well. The most popular one is the Lipstick Pepper Spray. These come in a variety of colors.

Lipstick Pepper Spray for Ladies

Having a disguised pepper spray can be more advantageous in some circumstances as well. An innocuous lipstick tube coming out of a woman’s purse is not going to be seen as a threat. It can casually be retrieved when your intuition tells you something is wrong and be ready to use if you need to. You only get about 5 bursts of spray with this, but that should be plenty to stop an aggressor.

Pink Pepper SprayAnother hot item just for women is Mace Brand’s newest Hot Pink pepper spray. It is a 10% formula that easily fits in a purse or hanging off a keychain.

The flip-top dispenser makes aiming a no-brainer. When your thumb lifts up the fliptop, it is automatically aimed away from you and ready to spray into your attackers face.

It really only takes one good blast into someone’s face to change their tune. As soon as you spray someone, get away! They will not have the use of their eyes anymore so they won’t be able to chase you down. Just make sure you get yourself out of arms reach immediately.

Once you have gotten away from the person, you can call for help or just leave the area completely. You can still call the police after you’re gone and they can go after him.

He will be the one that can’t breathe or see very well and is frantically searching for water.  Bottom line on pepper sprays for women: Carry One! It is the least expensive option with the highest payoff in terms of getting yourself out of a sticky situation.

10 Things Rapists Look For

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Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

caught-woman

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women who are using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

Pepper Spray

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts!

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts, it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS, LOCK THEM and LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Share this with any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better to be safe than sorry.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.